Life Is Full of Shifts — And No One Prepares You for Them

My messaging often centers style shifts — and for good reason — but style isn’t the only area of life that evolves.

As we mature, we experience shifts so subtle that we don’t always recognize them until we’re already living in a new normal. These transitions quietly reshape how we think, move, and see ourselves. And whether we’re ready or not, they often change the trajectory of our lives.

Recently, I’ve been navigating several shifts that have challenged me deeply. Today, I want to share three of them — because if I’m experiencing this, I know I’m not alone.

Style Shifts: Letting Go of What No Longer Fits Who You’re Becoming

I can’t talk about life shifts without talking about personal style.

Over the past five years, my style has changed significantly. I’ve noticed that many pieces in my wardrobe no longer align with who I am today — yet I’ve held onto them longer than I should have. Part of that is budget-related.

But here’s what I’ve learned: when we change as people, our style must evolve too.

My current style priorities are comfort, versatility, and chic simplicity. There are pieces I reach for constantly — and others that sit untouched. Instead of continuing to force those pieces to work, I’m choosing intention. Before this year ends, I plan to go through my wardrobe and release anything that no longer serves the woman I’m becoming.

Style evolution is natural. Resistance only creates frustration.

Ways to navigate a style shift:

• Cleanse your closet of pieces that no longer suit you

• Take updated measurements and identify your body shape (Determine your body shape with The Body Shape Bible)

• Seek guidance from a trusted expert (like a Style Savant) to help you shop and dress with intention

Mindset Shifts: Seeing Life Through a New Lens

My mindset has changed tremendously over the last decade.

How I see myself, my circumstances, and my future is very different from how it used to be — largely due to my spiritual journey and the communities I’ve surrounded myself with. Journaling, prayer, studying scripture, fasting, and intentional reflection have shifted my perspective in ways I can’t always explain, but deeply feel.

Even when it seems like I’ve been in the same season for a long time, I know growth is happening because I’m thinking differently. I’m responding differently. I’m processing differently.

One of the hardest parts of a mindset shift is realizing that not everyone around you will understand it. And sometimes, growth requires letting go of habits, environments, or even people.

Ways to support a mindset shift:

• Release people and patterns that weigh you down

• Join communities aligned with your values

• Stay open to change — even when it feels uncomfortable

Relationship Shifts: The Ones No One Warns You About

Relationship shifts have been the hardest for me.

In my 30s, I’ve noticed that friendships I once considered close have changed — not dramatically, but undeniably. Communication looks different. Priorities have shifted. And some connections no longer feel aligned.

What makes this shift especially difficult is that no one prepares you for it.

As children, we believe our friends will be with us forever. But adulthood introduces responsibilities, growth, and life paths that don’t always run parallel. And sometimes, the distance isn’t caused by conflict — it’s caused by evolution.

This doesn’t only apply to friendships. Family dynamics and romantic relationships shift too.

Over time, I’ve learned to choose relationships rooted in peace, mutual respect, and support — and to gently release those that no longer serve that purpose.

Ways to navigate relationship shifts:

• Don’t take it personally — growing apart is natural

• Some of the best relationships are formed later in life

• Not everyone deserves consistent access to you

These shifts aren’t easy — and they aren’t meant to be.

If you’re experiencing any of these transitions right now, I encourage you to lean in rather than resist. Pay attention to what’s changing. Give yourself grace. Give others grace too.

Every shift carries a lesson. And often, it’s preparing you for something greater than you can currently see.